Confidence is belief in our abilities derived from our competence. Here are some ways to build healthy confidence in children.
Clearly express the best qualities in your children, but be careful not to overly focus on their talents or physical abilities. Be sure to point out such things as fairness, integrity, persistence, and kindness. Those kinds of traits are relevant to all of life and are useful in every stage of their life. Recognize when your children do well…really do well. False praise, grade inflation, and trophies for doing nothing but showing up does not build real self-assurance. It forms a hollow one. I’m convinced that the self-esteem movement has done more harm than good.
When you do offer praise, and you should do it as often as you can, be sure it’s honest, and about specific achievements. While we want to build confidence in children by allowing them to try new things be sure not push them to take on more than they can realistically handle.
Take Away: Self-Confidence is better the self-esteem.