Here is my suggestion. Find someone who knows you pretty well. It could be a friend, a boss, a mentor, but it has to be someone who will speak the truth to you in love. Ask this person these questions, and listen intently to their answers, without being defensive.
What do you see in me, that I don’t see in myself? What could I become if I changed? Where am I
wasting my time and resources? How do you see God working in and through me?
Take Away: We have not because we ask not.