However, she experienced a remarkable remission and they had some time together as a couple. Eventually though, the cancer won and she died at age 45. Lewis said that the three years of his marriage to Joy were the happiest of his life. The grief he felt after her passing was so deep because of the happiness he had experienced with her.
According to Lewis, and I think he is absolutely right on this, marriage is an agreement to grieve. Marriage is a choice to mourn, because one day we’ll all pass away. It may be tomorrow or it may be fifty years from now. We don’t know and that’s the point. So, live in the marriage like you might die tomorrow.
Take Away: Marriage is a choice to mourn, because one day we’ll all pass away.